article 6 In This Series of Articles on Compatibility

Sex

Sex is an issue in many relationships.  Some people are more adventurous than others.  Others want sex frequently while their partners are satisfied with making love less.  

You should know that mastery of technique is one of the least important facets in a satisfying sex life.  If you are able to communicate your desires to your partner, you can learn and grow together.

But, if you have fundamental differences in your approach to sex, there may be problems.

Jodi and Tom got together and at first, their passion was white hot.  Or so Tom thought.  But, after a few months, it became clear that Jodi was indulging Tom when she didnt really want to make love every night.

Tom was confused because he felt that Jodi had led him on to secure the relationship and was now changing the terms.  Jodi felt that she was settling down into a more normal sex life.

Through relationship counseling, Tom and Jodi were able to discuss their needs and desires.  

Life Habits

So many things get ignored at the beginning of a relationship.  A woman might not care that her new boyfriend doesnt ever wash his car because shes swept off her feet by him.  A man might not be concerned that his new girlfriend seems to spend more time at the beauty salon than she does in her own living room.

But soon these life habits become apparent and can cause friction in a relationship.

Jim believed that early to bed and early to rise made a man healthy, wealthy, and wise.  On Saturday mornings, he was out of bed at 6:30 for a run in the park.  When he got back around 8:00 a.m., he wanted to have a big breakfast and start the day.

Julia, was not ready to face the weekend so early in the morning.  Saturday was the one day she could catch up on her sleep and she valued her time in bed.

Eventually, Jim joined a mens Bible study on Saturdays so he felt that the morning wasnt wasted and Julia agreed to be up by 10:00 when he got back so they could spend the rest of the day together.

But compromising on these life habits issues isnt always so simple.  Sometimes, theyre deal breakers.  Theres only so much you can bend before you break.

Article 7 in this series of articles on "Compatibility " will pick up discussing "family" and will conclude this series of articles.